Did you know that you spell love T-I-M-E? Yeah, kind of crazy. I know, but if you have kids, that is how you spell love your time.
Today I’m going to give you five points of how you can love your kids by spending time with them in different areas.
Hello everyone. My name is Gina Alagata and I am a life and business coach for women.
I am married to my husband of 28 years. I am a mother of four, my fantastic four kids ages 19 through 25 .And I’m also a business owner. I’ve been in business for over twelve years now, working with hundreds if not thousands of women personally and professionally.
Today I want to share these five points with you and hopefully if you haven’t already, you can start implementing them in your own family with your own kids. It’s going to take some time if you haven’t already been doing this, but I can guarantee these are really good ones that will work.
Show Up at Your Kids’ Events
Number one is to show up for your kids’ events. It doesn’t matter if it’s a practice, recital, if they do dance, if they have sporting events, or a spelling bee at their school. When they’re little ,show up for those events.
That shows your kids that you value them and you are putting them first. Not necessarily first over God and your marriage. But you understand what I’m saying.
You want your kids to know that mom and dad are always there for them and showing up to these events are crucial from a young age. Now, if your kids are older and you hadn’t been doing this before, start now, it doesn’t matter. Just start now. Okay?
Ask About Their Day
Number two is ask about their day. I will tell you from personal experience this is something I did every day when I picked up my kids from school. “How was your day?” And eventually it got to the point where they wouldn’t really answer the question if I said how was your day. So I had to be more specific. How was your spelling be today or what did you do at recess today?
What did you have for lunch today? So get more specific with your questions and how you’re asking them, but asking them questions about their day. Maybe think that they did people they hung out with, shows them that you care and that you love them.
Get to Know Their Friends
Okay, number three, get to know their friends. This is a really, really big one, especially as your kids get older. It’s so important to get to know their friends and special things about their friends.
Maybe what their friends’ favorite color is, when their birthday is, and the things that their friends like to do. Because if your child is spending time with this other child that is their best friend, that person is important to them.
For you to get to know them and spend time with them, invite them into your home, take them to places with you, that shows your child that you value the people that are important to them.
Try to include their friends in your lives together in some way so you can get to know them more. Invite them to go to the park, the beach or roller skating, whatever it is that you guys like to do. Maybe if you take your child to the movies, take a friend with them and get to know the friend. Let your child know that you value the person that they value now as they get older.
If it’s somebody that’s not a positive influence on your child, there’s other ways that other things that need to happen. That’s for a different post.
But especially when they’re younger and also getting into their teen years, it’s very important that you get to know their friends and let your child know that you know if you love and value and trust this person, then I want to get to know them as well.
Encourage and Uplift Them Daily
Okay, number four. This is something that from the time mine were little I’ve always done is to encourage and uplift them daily. I’ll tell you right now, life is hard. The world is hard.
As soon as they walk out that door, whether they’re going to school outside the house or to work or just do different activities, they’re faced with a tough world. The number one person that should be uplifting and encouraging them in day to day life and who they are is you as their mom.
So make sure that you’re doing that. Find something good about them that they’re doing. Maybe how they look, what they’re wearing, the music they’re listening to, they clean their room. It doesn’t matter.
You can always find something positive and good about that child that you can encourage them and uplift them and praise them fo. That is so, so important, because sometimes even on their darkest days, because your students will have tough times, those are things that they will hold on to.
A matter of fact, my son has a white board in his room and I wrote years ago, I love you and my name mom. It’s still on that white board. He’s kept it up there. So those are very important things for your kids.
Make Sure to Unplug
And then lastly, is to make sure to unplug. Turn off the TV, turn off your phones, and spend time with your kids.
One of the things that I love to do from the time my kids were little, even until now, my kids being teens in early twenties, is have pillow talk time. They always knew that they could come in my room, even if I was exhausted. They’d come in my room, lay on my bed and we would have pillow talk time.
And sometimes it is crazy, the things that these kids would unload on me and talk to me about. Recently I was actually out of town and all four of my kids were together. They had pillow talk time together. They snapped a video and sent it to me and said, “Look, mom, we’re having pillow talk time.” You know what that meant to me? Like, I’m going to cry over that one because we have worked so hard at implementing those values in our home and letting our kids know that spending time with our kids is important, and we hope that they’ll carry that legacy onto their own family someday.
So I hope this has helped you. How do you spell love by spending time with your kids? What does that look like for you?
I would love to hear from you. Drop a comment below or shoot me an email. I would love to hear from you. I hope you’re having a wonderful day and I look forward to seeing you again. Be blessed.
